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For e. And then, I don't pick up the toy and put it in her hands, I simply validate: "you're upset because the toy fell. You were having fun with it. Simple, right? Another situation: 6-mo old baby is congested, and wakes up mad throughout the night because she can't breathe and she can't nurse.

With the first baby, the solution was saline spray followed by the Nosefrieda my arms and feet wrapped around my squirming child, heart aching from having to put him through that.

I knew the process did not hurt one bit, because I had resorted to spraying his nose in his sleep and he didn't even wake up. With the second child, I showed her the spray bottle and simply explained what was going to happen. First few times she squirmed and cried just as hard as my boy I just put her on her bed, and did not try to subdue her at all. Just told her what I was going to do and waited for her "permission" - any sign of readiness to proceed. I sprayed, she smiled, and it was over.

Husband almost fell on the floor yes, he often had to come help me hold the kids from flailing around while I cleaned their nose, all 6ft of him. One of Janet's first chapters gives you the keys to resolve such situations. She proposes a role reversal. Think about yourself incapacitated, and your child or some big bulky tall person taking care of you. They show up with strange instruments, hold you down, and proceed to insert things into your nose - your only breathing apparatus!!!!

Wouldn't you scream and fight too? I've read alien abduction stories that went like this Going back to the separation anxiety example, suppose your loved one is leaving the house for an indeterminate amount of time over which you have no control, and he looks like he can't wait to get out the door, rushing through the house collecting clothes, keys, coffee, etc.

Wouldn't you cry too? This book should be read by all parents - new and seasoned. I am not advocating RIE over any other parenting philosophy although now I strongly prefer it.

In addition, the book fills a very big gap in parenting books: how to raise emotionally intelligent children. I had read all about how important emotional intelligence is, all about how empathy is a better predictor of success than IQ, all about how boys grow up emotionally illiterate, etc. I had read Freud's writings inside and out while in college and knew early experiences might doom my child to perpetual counseling. I knew ABOUT the importance of all the above, but did not know the HOW to go about raising a child who knows what they feel, and knows that whatever they feel is ok not what they do, what they feel - not advocating permissive parenting here , and knows how they want to be treated.

My older child has coached me through my mommy-tantrums a couple of times now. The book is a collection of Janet's blogs, so one commenter questioned the need to buy the book at all. However, once you go down the RIE path, you will probably encounter resistance because your parenting will appear odd what do you mean, you don't shush a crying baby? You don't want me to say "Good job! To have a book that you can hand to your husband, nanny, parent, or whoever is taking care of your child or judging your childcare , is much more convenient than printing out or forwarding blog articles.

In addition, you can choose to purchase the audio version - which is what I did. All Ages. Videos Success Stories Podcasts. More From Janet. Browse My Books and Audio Books. Consult With Me Schedule a private one-on-one consultation to speak directly with Janet for personalized advice. Make An Appointment ». Novum utroque atomorum te eos.

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